Survey: What are the reasons for bad sex?

Sex is known to be the most beautiful secondary matter in the world. But how satisfied are people in this country with sex? Is bad sex even an issue in German households? The erotic community Joyclub has asked.

More than three quarters of Germans have had bad sex before

Exuberant passion, wild ecstasy and deep satisfaction: That’s probably what most Germans want from sexual encounters. But what does reality look like? Is sex really always a feast for the senses and leads to a unique explosion of feelings? Or is there also such a thing as bad sex?

The erotic community Joyclub asked around 2,000 members about the quality of their previous sexual encounters. Result: Of the female respondents, a full 89.4 percent say that they have already had bad sex, of the male respondents it is “only” 76.6 percent – a clear difference between the sexes.

What the reason for this is can only be surmised. It’s possible that men are less demanding in bed than women or overestimate their sexual performance a little.

Lack of passion during sex is mood killer number one

Men and women agree on the main reason for bad sex: lack of passion. Three quarters of the female and two thirds of the male respondents state that they are not really enthusiastic about lovemaking if the fire is not burning and the feelings are not bubbling.

It is also important to both sexes that the sexual partner is fully involved and does not allow himself to be distracted during sex. This is made clear by the second most frequently cited reason for bad sex, “boredom.

As far as third place is concerned, however, there is disagreement between men and women – apparently due to natural circumstances. Female respondents cite unwanted pain during sex, which men are unlikely to feel in the same way. The male survey participants cite lack of experimentation and variety during sex as the third most common reason for bad sex.

Surprisingly, hardly anyone sees climax as the main reason for good or bad sex. So whether it’s their own orgasm, that of their sex partner or even a shared orgasm is not important to most men and women when it comes to evaluating a sexual encounter.

Only 15 percent confront the sex partner directly about bad sex

Addressing sexual frustration or is it better not to let on? Opinions are divided on this. For example, 50.9 percent of survey participants say they tell their partner if things are not going well in bed. By contrast, 49.1 percent prefer to keep quiet.

However, most people avoid direct confrontation with bad sex. Just 15.4 percent of the men and women surveyed tell their sex partner directly if they were unhappy with the sex.

The situation is different if the sex was good. A full 91.4 percent talk about it afterwards. However, what is absolutely frowned upon by two-thirds of male and female survey participants is the question: “And how was I?”

Moreover, wanting to improve one’s own sexual qualities is part of the equation for both sexes. Both men and women make equal use of freely available tips on the Internet for this purpose. More women exchange tips with friends, whereas more men go to anonymous Internet forums for this purpose.